Friendships reflect, forge, and assimilate one’s identity. For the better or for the worse completely depends on the individual’s choice of friendships that he/ she/ they collect in their life time. A lesson that I am still learning to this day. I believe that one’s friends reflect the individual to a spectacular depth. As human beings, we pick up and mimic each other’s behaviors, habits, and interests subconsciously. Due to that fact, one’s group of friends indicate a lot about the individual.
I possess a belief that every individual that one across their life provides a lesson or learning experience. The lesson itself is often subjective, however the lesson, for me at least, is always there. We as people use each other as mirrors. Projecting our insecurities onto others and to see ourselves in different perspectives. That is why people often learn a lot about themselves by simply observing others. I believe that some people are here in my life to benefit me. Support me. Motivate me. These are rare individuals who have similar mindsets and habits that cause the law of attraction to be greater. These are individuals that I usually learn the most from as well as grow. As I am growing, they grow as well. The perfect, balanced, and harmonious win-win situation.
On the other side of the coin, there are individuals who are in one’s lie to teach lessons. Especially the lessons one often tries to avoid due to the nature of the lessons. These relationships often come along with pain of different varieties that ranges from emotional to mental. These are the relationships that just hurt. Why? Because they are the people we often gave the most chances to and trusted more than one wants to admit. However, these friendships and relationships are often the ones that catalyzes the most growth in one. It immediately perks one’s ear toward a flaw in themselves. An error that must be fixed. From naiveness to incapabilities to recognize negative, hurtful people, these relationships highlight an area in life that needs dramatic improvement.
By using relationships of all kinds as stepping stones and learning curves to grow from, no relationship is a mistake or an unfortunate accident, but rather a pleasantly surprising gift to gratefully accept. We all grow from each other to improve ourselves in our own fashion. Every one has the innate desire to better rather than worse. Through assimilation, we slowly become our friends and they become like us. Through differences and time, I become them and they become me.
That is why the statement “Show me your friends and I can show you your future” holds a lot of harsh integrity and heavy weight. Due to the fact that people slowly become more like each other, friendships and relationships dictate one’s future. The difference between the group of stoners to hyper ambitious people is self evident and explaining. That is the reason why I believe people should be more mindful and careful to whom they spend a lot of time with in their life. By surrounding yourself with behaviors, qualities, and attributes you respect and admire, you become more like your ideal self.
I take this rule in life very seriously as I believe that the people in my life will aid me to my goals, dreams, and aspirations. To put it in layman terms, I value quality over quantity. By practicing this habit more often, I found my daily life to be much more enjoyable as I am often learning from the people around me. I am more driven and more passionate in the activities I care about. I discuss more ideas and concepts that are relevant to my career and work. The marginal benefits incredibly outweigh the costs. I hope that this revelation in my life can communicate to others to practice a similar belief. I believe it will increase the quality of life in others as well and allow for one to become their greater self more efficiently in less time. I rest my case.
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